Tuesday, June 4, 2013
I try to tell him that people don't always say what they mean. Sometimes you have to read between the lines. Unfortunately, that skill comes with age. Humans, in their infinite wisdom, do not know how to communicate well. Crazy to think it but it's true. Fear comes out as anger and love comes out like disdain. It's so much easier just to say what you mean "I love you and I'm concerned"..."I'm afraid for you". Young adults are not wise or worldly but we can't expect them to be. When you love a young person it can be painful and scary. The love and need to protect are so overwhelming that at times we say the wrong things or do the wrong things in a pathetic attempt to ward off life's lessons. It's impossible to steer the ship if you will, to chart the journey for anyone else, no matter how hard you try. It's their journey and they are destined to take it. We can be there when the road gets rough but we can't get rid of the bumps. Letting go feels like you're dropping them into the abyss and turning your back but really it's the kindest thing you can do.