Thursday, November 20, 2014

Fearless

Being fearless isn't having no fear; it's moving forward in the company of fear- Cheryl Strayed

Wow.  Ain't that the truth.  Life is scary.  Fear is either a motivator or a road block and we have to choose which one it's going to be.  I've personally experienced fear in all of it's ugly forms and I can honestly say, Cheryl hit the mark when she said being fearless means moving forward.  She hiked 1,100 miles across the country to overcome her fears and in the process found herself.  Most of us make excuses for why we can't do something when in reality it's our fear of actually doing it that keeps us comfortable.  You can't accomplish anything worth while without experiencing fear.  Fear of the unknown, fear of physical pain, fear of rejection, fear of failure, fear of making the wrong decision, fear of fear... Know that being afraid is normal, make peace with that and move forward in the company of fear.  Take every opportunity, make tough decisions, feel pain, be uncomfortable,  be the person that says "WTF, I'm going for it"...yea, you might fail, but you might succeed and you won't ever know unless you embrace your fear.

Saturday, May 10, 2014

Mom

I've been called a lot of things.  Daughter, sister, niece, student, Care Bear, Bitch (hard to believe, I know), friend, BFF, colleague, Dentist, Dr. Berry, Doc, Doctor, Mrs. Berry, wife....Mom.  Moooooommm! mom mom mom mom mom, mother, mommy.  By far the most important thing I've ever been called was mom.  I learned from the best what I know about being a mom.  The rest of it comes from inside.  I've had a lot of jobs in my years as well but being a parent is definitely the hardest thing to do and do well.  Yea, being a mom is exhausting.  It's overwhelming at times.  Some days I wonder "why did I think this was a good idea?"  It's hard work!

There's diapers, vomit, spit up, getting up at all hours of the night, car seats, strollers, naps or lack there of, making meals, cleaning up after meals, doing the dishes, laundry, laundry, laundry, did I say laundry?  Picking up everyone's things and cleaning up all the time, grocery shopping, doctor's appointments, sports practices, tournaments, games, clothes and equipment purchases, birthday parties, friend overnights, lunches for school, homework, social drama,  illness, ER visits, and of course there's the 24/7 connectivity with the cell phones.  I've also found that mom's are really the only people in the world that can change the toilet paper when it runs out.  So that's a full time job...on top of the paying job.  Yep, a lot of mom's have a day job as well.  WOW, who would want to do all of that??  Me.

If you're a mom, you know what I'm talking about.  If you are not a mom you're probably feeling relieved right now!  My 3 kids are the most important people in my life.  They are all special and unique and I have so much love for them I can't put it in words.  My life would not be complete without the chaos they create.  Crazy as that sounds...they keep me going on my darkest days, they keep me focused on the big picture and I am grateful.  Every day I am proud to be their mom.

Happy Mother's Day to all the mom's out there who know exactly what I'm trying to say here and may you feel as lucky and blessed as I do.

Tuesday, April 1, 2014

The Happiest Place on Earth

Not mentioning that Shawn left with a cold, Kevin's car incident, Zach getting gouged in each eye on separate occasions once by each sibling, me getting Shawn's cold half way through the trip or Hope getting the stomach flu on our last day there we had a GREAT time!  Just returned from you guessed it...Disney World!  I love Disney.  Yes, I'm a Disney freak.  I'm not afraid to admit it.  It's a magical place...never mind the crowds, the people watching is most certainly magical.  I still have fairy dust in my hair and I'm going to keep it there as long as possible.  The coolest thing about going to Disney for me is that I really do forget everything back home.  It's the one time I can do that.  This trip was extra special because my oldest son graduates in May and it was our last outing with him before he leaves home sniff sniff, we all spent each day together and I have great memories of the togetherness, laughing, talking and just being with each other.  I know this is the end of our family vacations with just the 5 of us because my kids are growing up and going their own way.  I'm looking forward to the future with girlfriends, boyfriends, the fiance and then the spouses but I do have a heavy heart today full of memories of my kids growing up and all the once in a lifetimes that entailed...Yea, we had some issues but this trip was really special to me and it was absolutely MAGICAL.

Friday, March 7, 2014

Selfless

The reason we are here together in this lifetime is to be selfless and give to others expecting nothing in return.  Not just to love the ones we know, but to love those we don't know.  Being kind is sometimes difficult especially when we get all caught up in our own lives and our own perceived problems.  We can often only see with tunnel vision and are missing the big picture.  People always want more...more money, more time, more weight loss, more beauty, more vacations, more house, more car, bigger, better everything all the time.  Stop.  Just stop and look at the world around you.  Make a difference in someone else's life...someone you don't know.  Be selfless.  When you stop worrying only about yourself and what you have or don't have and start seeing that you have so much that you are wealthy beyond your wildest dreams, not with money but with love...your life will change and changing the lives of those around you is so rewarding you will be content.  Isn't that what we are all after?  Make a real difference and touch someone's life in an unexpected way.

Monday, February 10, 2014

Full Circle

So I've come full circle.  Today I go back to being a dentist at the same exact place I was at before...kinda crazy really because that doesn't happen often.  However, the past 2 years have been plain crazy anyhow so it's really not all that surprising.  Life just sends you around in circles, have you ever noticed that?  If you say you want something and it's not meant to be, you end up where you started...sorta twilight zoneish.  Anyhow, I'm back to doing what I do and what I've done for 20 years so wish me luck, say a prayer for me and if you need a good dentist, come see me!

Friday, January 24, 2014

Happy Birthday to a Hero

On January 26th, Danny Dietz would have been 34.  His mom posted a picture on Facebook that a friend shared and as I read her words, I realized that it's easy to lose sight of what's really important.  Living in the moment, tasting your food, seeing the beauty in the smallest things, taking time to truly listen, letting someone know you are thinking of them, moving past anger, laughing with a friend, hugging your kids....we all get so caught up in the daily crap we have to deal with that we focus on the meaningless and trivial.  We are all going to deal with loss whether it's someone or something important to us, what I'm saying is don't make your experiences up to that point just as bad as the loss, make your experiences matter and you won't have regret as well as sadness.  I have not seen the movie or read the book because it's too painful for me as a parent to face the loss.  Greatness is something we all hope for but the true path to greatness is selflessness and that, my friends, is the end goal...if you can be selfless, you will know peace.  Happy Birthday Danny.

Thursday, January 16, 2014

Just a reminder

I saw this on Facebook this morning and it really hit home with me.  It's so incredibly true that it amazes me.  The beers are the perfect ending!

A professor stood before his philosophy class and had some items in front of him. When the class began, he wordlessly picked up a very large and empty mayonnaise jar and proceeded to fill it with golf balls. He then asked the students if the jar was full. They agreed that it was. The professor then picked up a box of pebbles and poured them into the jar. He shook the jar lightly. The pebbles roll ed into the open areas between the golf balls. He then asked the students again if the jar was full. They agreed it was. The professor next picked up a box of sand and poured it into the jar. Of course, the sand filled up everything else. He asked once more if the jar was full.. The students responded with a unanimous ‘yes.’ The professor then produced two Beers from under the table and poured the entire contents into the jar effectively filling the empty space between the sand.The students laughed.. ‘Now,’ said the professor as the laughter subsided, ‘I want you to recognize that this jar represents your life. The golf balls are the important things—-your family, your children, your health, your friends and your favorite passions—-and if everything else was lost and only they remained, your life would still be full. The pebbles are the other things that matter like your job, your house and your car.. The sand is everything else—-the small stuff. ‘If you put the sand into the jar first,’ he continued, ‘there is no room for the pebbles or the golf balls. The same goes for life. If you spend all your time and energy on the small stuff you will never have room for the things that are important to you. Pay attention to the things that are critical to your happiness. Spend time with your children. Spend time with your parents. Visit with grandparents. Take your spouse out to dinner. Play another 18. There will always be time to clean the house and mow the lawn. Take care of the golf balls first—-the things that really matter. Set your priorities. The rest is just sand. One of the students raised her hand and inquired what the Beer represented. The professor smiled and said, ‘I’m glad you asked.’ The Beer just shows you that no matter how full your life may seem, there’s always room for a couple of Beers with a friend.